Back in 2005, I began a personal project that I told no one about.
At the time, I was frustrated. As a young New Yorker, I was constantly surrounded in everyday life by attractive women I didn’t know how to start a conversation with — on the subway train, walking the other way down the street, sitting in a coffee shop, wearing her headphones at the Don’t Walk sign. I knew some of these women were people I’d like connect with and others weren’t — but I had no way of finding out. My goal: get beneath the veneer and have a meaningful-and-sexually-charged interaction as quickly as possible.
It’s no longer a secret to anyone who knows me: I spent a year starting conversations with thousands of strangers in New York, on the street, on the subway, and at cocktail parties. I learned from professional networking experts, business consultants, acting coaches, social butterflies, and pickup artists – anyonewho claimed to be good at making first encounters matter. After seven months of more rejection than most humans face in a lifetime, everything began to click. The principles of first encounters became clear.
It would be indiscreet to speak of the results stories here, but they exceeded what I thought was even possible in life. What I can say is that I’m now comfortable approaching anyone I see and starting a conversation that I’m confident will be meaningful and fun (and flirtacious, if applicable). I’ve found a way beneath the veneer, and it’s a thrilling way to live.
Prompted by friends, I began teaching professional seminars and interactive workshops on this in early 2007. Of all the things I’m proud of in my life, being able to help guys change their lives — being both authentic and attractive — to become better able to make women very happy is absolutely at the top.
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